How many of you have asked yourselves:

“Why am I always drawn to the wrong man?”

Why do the same patterns keep repeating in your relationships—pain, disappointment, insecurity?

The answer is not found only in the present. It goes back to an ancient wound, buried deep within you: the father wound.

When the father is absent…

A father is not merely a physical presence. He embodies an energy—the energy of safety, support, and that gaze which tells the child:

“You are worthy of love simply because you exist.”

But what happens when that gaze is missing?

When the father is cold, harsh, or too busy, leaving the little girl feeling unseen?

How does this wound shape our lives?

The child grows up with an insatiable thirst for attention, a relentless search for recognition.

As a woman, she unconsciously seeks the “missing father” in her relationships.

She is drawn to the cold, distant, emotionally unavailable man—because that coldness feels familiar, echoing the memory of the absent father.

Thus, the pain repeats. Again and again. Until a new awareness comes to break the cycle.

The impact on energy and the Self

This wound extends beyond love and relationships. It shapes the way we see ourselves.

It influences our self-esteem, our ability to set boundaries, and our trust in our right to succeed.

It is as if a part of us remains frozen—a little girl still waiting to be seen, loved, and made to feel safe.

From pain to liberation

Healing begins when we accept to see that little girl within us.

When we listen to her, when we offer her today what was missing yesterday: recognition, love, and safety.

Then, the repetition stops.

The past no longer needs to replay itself.

We cease choosing partners through the lens of the wound, and we finally open ourselves to relationships that reflect our true worth.

In conclusion

The father wound is not a sentence—it is a doorway.

By facing it with honesty, we stop being victims of our past and become, at last, the true parents of ourselves.

And only then can real love emerge: a love that is free, mature, and authentic.