A successful relationship with a un partner has many secrets, and I’ll share with you one small secret that can completely change the way you see your partners and the people you love.
Your partners are the ones who will constantly push you to your limits.
We are aware of the universal law that says, “Everything that annoys me from the outside is a great invitation for me to fix something from the inside!”
Here’s the story:
Once upon a time, there was a woman who lived her life very quietly and never thought about what she did. When someone asked her about something, she never said no. She loved this quality about herself because everyone always applauded her and embraced her. She was “very generous” and a “wonderful giver.”
Now, her husband doesn’t share this trait at all. He barely helps anyone, and he always tells her no when she asks him for something, or he simply doesn’t do it. And this is a big problem for both of them. They constantly argue, and she yells at him to stop this habit that annoys her so much. Of course, it seems as if she hasn’t said a word because she didn’t know any better, and this is a big secret I’ll share with you from one of my courses “Marriage of Light”
She didn’t know that men and women can’t hear and deal with the same levels of voice tones! So, everything she said to him in a high-pitched tone, he literally couldn’t hear it. Her husband also constantly criticizes everything she does because everything she does bothers him. He criticizes her in all her actions, especially those she does for others. He always tells her she’s doing it wrong or that she doesn’t know how to do anything, and more comments like that.
So, what can we understand from this story? Simply put, these two completely opposite personalities are not in a relationship by chance. There is no such thing as “coincidence.”
We can understand that:
The husband’s role is:
– To teach her how to set boundaries with people.
– To show her that she needs to stop allowing others to exploit her.
– And to help her learn how to put herself first.
And now, the wife’s role:
– To teach him how to communicate his emotions.
– To show him the difference between sympathy and pity.
– And to help him learn how to stop being harsh on himself…
So, the greatest blessing we have in our lives is our partners… because they will show you your true weaknesses and strengths better than anyone else… and no one will push you out of your comfort zone like them.